Lessons Learned: Friends

Over the past eight years or so (ever since middle school), I have learned so many lessons about having friendships. There are some people that only want to be close with you for their own ulterior motives. Maybe they like knowing all the gossip they can and want to be able to spread your personal business to others. Another possible reason could be to dig up as much dirt on you as possible, for various reasons. Over time, it gets easier and easier to spot those people. Generally, they don't want to hang out for the sake of having friend time. Whenever you're around them, they keep asking you questions, like what do you think of this person and how do you like so-and-so's new haircut. I'm not saying you should avoid them, but watch what you tell these people. Then you have the friends that are fun to be around, but who will put you down and make you feel horrible in a heartbeat. I'm not quite what motivates these people; perhaps it makes them feel better about themselves. No matter the reason, you shouldn't spend too much of your time with them for your own good. Another breed of bad friend is the friend who will sell you out for other friends or their boyfriend/girlfriend. You might think that the two of you are close until that other friend or the significant other comes along...then BAM you're out of the picture! It might be difficult, but you shouldn't depend heavily on them since they will always let you down. As you get older, you are able to identify these types of "bad" friends quickly and more efficiently. I know I certainly have been able to.